For teens and adults:
In the book, Fire in My Heart, Ice in My Veins: A Journal for Teenagers Experiencing a Loss , Enid Samuel Traisman, M.S.W., suggests several statements that can help you write about or draw your feelings during a time of loss. Find a blank book a pen or something to draw with. Choose statements that mean something to you. Be sure to talk with someone you trust if you are having a hard time or feel like hurting yourself.
Sometimes I find myself imagining that if these things were different, your death might not have really happened.I wish you could tell me what your death was like, what really happened. I think you’d say… “I can physically feel the pain of your death, and this is where and how I feel it in my body. “Here is a drawing of what my pain looks like…”This is what I would write on your tombstone so that everyone who would read it would have an idea of the person you were. “I often wear a mask to hide what I am really feeling. I do this because…”Late at night, when the world is asleep, I am awake thinking about…”Our friends got together and did something special in your memory…”Music helps release feelings; here are some songs/lyrics that mean a lot to me. “A poem that I wrote (or is special)… “I think about the meaning of life. Why people die when they do… “This is what helps me find meaning in my pain over your death… “