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This page is BY teens FOR teens!....when someone has died or when a family member has a serious illness.

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Grieving sucks and so does coping with illness, but here's what we want you to know.

  • Grieving and coping look different for everyone.

  • Remember, you don't have to be strong all the time.

  • The crying is the healing, not the hurting.

  • Some will cry; some won't.

  • Some will be very sad; some will act happy.

  • Some will want to go out; some will just want to stay in.

  • Everyone is different and that's okay!

Find what works for you!

It could be playing video games, reading, writing, listening to music, watching TV or movies, exercising, making art, cooking or anything else!

Feel free to take other's advice, but also feel free to ignore it.

Be open to new ideas, but do what's best for you!

Find Your Support!  Support is SO important.  You are not alone! 

Talk to:

  • family

  • friends

  • teachers

  • coach

  • social worker

  • The Center

  • Someone you can trust!

Why come to the Center?

The purpose of the Center for Grieving Children is to support each other.  The teens at the Center - Us! - are open-minded and non-judgmental.  The teens that will be in your group will have gone through a similar experience as you.  You are not alone.

 

Center intro from The Center for Grieving Children on Vimeo.

The Center is:

  • Safe

  • Comfortable

  • Fun

  • Supportive

  • We all get along great even though we're different

  • And it's FREE!

Frequently Asked Questions

How do I start?

  1. Talk to your parent/guardian.

  2. Contact the Center by calling 207.775.5216 or emailing 

  3. You will set up a family meeting with a staff member to review your loss and figure out if the Center is a good fit for you.

  4. Pick a night that works for you.

  5. Come join us!  It's that easy!

 How much does it cost?

  • It's FREE!! Because of many gracious donations, fundraising events, and our amazing volunteers, the Center is able to stay free of cost so families can get the support they need without having to worry about that, too!

 What's going to happen when I'm there?

On a regular group night there is a schedule:

  • You walk in to the big room and every one has a little time to mingle and there will be some snacks provided.

  • We stand in a a big circle and everybody holds hands.

  • There may be an announcement or two.

  • We separate and go into our groups.

  • We get a five minute warning knock.

  • At 8:00 we all gather back in the big room for closing announcements.

  • We stand in a circle holding hands and squeeze each others hands.

In our groups, each night can be different. Some nights we might talk a lot, some nights we won't talk at all, sometimes we play games or do a project. It is completely up to you what you want to do or not! 

Is it private? Is anybody going to talk about me later?

  • The Center has a strict confidentiality rule, meaning that anything that is said during the groups will not be repeated outside of that group! We will not tell your parents or siblings who you have a crush on or that you didn't do your homework that night or how you are feeling.

  • THE ONLY EXCEPTION is if anything is said that raises awareness of anything that could cause harm to the participant or to others.

  • This also means that you must agree to not speak about other participants outside of the group. If you don't want others talking about you, you shouldn't talk about them.

Real Quotes from Real Teens

"It pretty much let the weight come off my shoulders...cause it helped me a lot. And hearing other people's stories told me I wasn't alone with what was happening."
- 15 year old

"When I first came to the Center I was very opposed to the idea. I didn't feel like I needed help. I felt like I was fine. I didn't need to talk to anyone about what was going on, but once I opened up and realized it was okay to let other people in, then things started changing for the better."
- 17 year old

"When you lose someone, you feel lost, like there's nothing to hold on to. The Center helps you to rebuild your foundation and put you back on solid ground."
- 16 year old

"When I went to the Center I hoped it would help, but it helped more than I could have ever imagined! Not only with my grieving process, but it changed my life."
- 18 year old

Hear more from Center teens here and here.

Want to learn more?

Email the Center at  or call 207.775.5216, to talk about if the Center is right for you.

Click here to check out the schedules for the Center's different programs.

Other Resources

Helpful Links
Books About Grieving for Teens 
Helping Teenagers Cope With Grief
Coping with Grief and Loss
Teen Grief
Suicide Lifeline